Sometimes You Can Do All the Right Things ...

It probably hit me yesterday when I was watching President Obama address reporters after the bill for strengthening background checks and closing loopholes failed in the Senate. All the sad, familiar faces behind him -- either victims of gun violence or had lost a loved one to it, coupled with the round-the-clock, often incorrect reporting coming out of the Boston Marathon bombing. 

It hit me how even after I turned the TV off and went to do something, anything else, the feeling still lingered. It was there when I went to the gym to work out. When I ate my oatmeal in the morning. When I combed my hair. Even when I spent time with others I should have been enjoying.

I was depressed. And I didn't know why. After all, I was doing all the right things.

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Clutch Magazine: Embrace Your Irrational Hatred of Celebrities You Don't Know

Tuesday on Clutch I write about how often being a "hater" of celebrity isn't so much about the celebrity but ourselves and our deserve to vent. There's nothing more cathartic that going in on something you can't stand. It's a release. An unfair release to those we don't know, but a release all the same.

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The Snob Is In Florida on Vacation

Be back on Thursday!

Listen to The Snob Talk About "Where Did Our Love Go" on Atlanta's KISS FM

The Snob is back talking about love, black love in particular on this March 17 interview. It aired on Atlanta's 104.1 KISS FM and featured myself, Edward Garnes, and book editor Gil Robertson about his new book Where Did Our Love Go?, released in February. I contributed to the book, which is about the state of black love and marriage, featuring several essays on singlehood, marriage and divorce. (Mine was in the divorce chapter, called "The Problem with Marriage.") You can check out the full interview on Atlanta's 104.1 KISS FM here.

On the Internet, As In Real Life, the Onus Is On The Woman to Not Get Burned

Adria Richards speaking at a tech conference.Adria RichardsTo paraphrase Smashing Pumpkins, "The Internet is a vampire, set to troll." It can get pretty ugly out there and it's gotten very ugly for Adria Richards, who after tweeting about lewd language at a tech conference her employer was co-sponsoring, found herself out of a job. The ensuing publicity surrounding the case resulted in fine Internet dialogues like this ... and this:

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The Snob Will Be ON NPR's Tell Me More Today Talking Demographics

Photo by Danielle BeltonYours truly is returning to Michel Martin's Tell Me More on NPR today to talk America's changing demographics. Check your local listings to find out when Michel's show is playing in your area.

Snow-My-God in Florissant, Mo.

Photo by yours truly.

MeI'm home at the Parents' house in Florissant, Mo. and we got 15-and-half inches of snow. There's was nothing I could do but take pictures of it because there's no way I was going out there, a-shovelin'! But I did get to test the panoramic setting on my new camera, so there you have it. I love snow ... to look at. But like all Midwesterners, hate snow once it gets all gross and slushy and full of dirt from cars. But for right now, it's a Springtime Winter Wonderland in March. 

For my St. Louis, Mo. peeps, hope you're staying nice and warm. It's cold out there!

Yours truly,

The Secret Council of American Negroes and "The Blackest Tea"

The Secret Council of American Negroes is a parody blog started in 2008. Get caught up by clicking here.

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The Secret Council of American Negroes, also known as SCAN, is the man behind the man, behind the other man, behind the woman, behind everything that goes on in Black America. When your white friends wonder aloud how a black man could become president or why the NBA stands for "Nuttin' But Africans," it was us. We had a meeting and we decided these things. That's what we do. We're not all powerful (no one is), but we're powerful enough to get Colin Powell to troll the GOP and start talking about "inclusion" and racism at the Republican National Convention. And that's despite the fact that Powell is also a member of our sister (and rival) organization, Negroes of North America, aka NONA. It's a conservative off-shoot of SCAN who thought we'd been infiltrated by Democrats after we backed Brother Obama instead of Brother Powell for "Operation Real David Palmer." Truth be known, Brother Powell didn't want the gig, but you can't tell J.C. Watts shit.

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Facebook Encourages Narcissism, But As A Narcissist I'm Cool With That

ME!A friend recently brought it to my attention that my personal Facebook page was a lot of pictures of myself, taken by myself, in various stages of hair styling. I jokingly responded, "Well, I have a bit of a narcissist streak."

But for serious, I have a bit of a narcissist streak.

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