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Sexual Consent: Kiely Williams Ur Doin' It Wrong

Fine. If you want to "blame it on the alcohol," fine, but don't try to convince me, Miss Kiely Williams, that it's a GOOD thing to have sex while in a blackout with some dude you don't know. Maybe Kiely, being a youngin', doesn't know what a blackout is, which is why I'm so perplexed by her song (and video) for "Spectacular."

I have a friend who is a recovering alcoholic who experienced blackouts and none of them sounded fun, let alone an environment where she could have consented to anything. Nothing like waking up wondering how your car ended up in a field or how you even got home last night and hoping you didn't hurt anyone or do anything crazy while you were completely out of it. Someone could/can do anything to you in a blackout. Kill you. Rape you. Beat you senseless. Take your money. Dump you in a ditch. Whatever. That's what a blackout is. Where you are so drunk that you are in danger of just dying from vomiting.

Hence why I'm confused by her song "Spectacular" where she sings that the sex was great EVEN THOUGH SHE DOES NOT REMEMBER IT! She doesn't remember how she got there in the song. She doesn't remember if he used protection. But it was "Spectacular!?" Get it? Even though she doesn't remember what the hell just happened, it was the bomb. Um ... noooooooooo! You're not describing a fun evening out. You're describing the sex scene at the beginning of in the film "Rules of Attraction" where Shannen Sossamon gets vomited on while being raped while she was blacked out.

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