Lean In. Lean Out. Stand. Sit. Run. Rest. (Guest Post)

By Lynne Adrine

Girlfriends.  All friends. Help a sister out. My rant for today.

I have been reading, with rising levels of discomfort, all the recent entries into the feminist/corporate/capitalist/lean-in/get married/mommy wars. And I think the overall discussion misses the larger point.

Could it be that perhaps we don’t need to be spending energy on how women can better fit and triumph in 2013 corporate America? Maybe our time would be better spent on changing the rigidity of corporate structure so that more people – male and female – could fit in and find a way to their best efforts without leaving their personal lives strewn on the floor like so much debris? 

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Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg: Are Women In Their Own Way?

Facebook COO Sheryl SandbergOn 60 Minutes this Sunday there was an eye-opening interview with Facebook Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg where, pushing a new book, wondered if women were the ones holding women back. 

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In Celebration of Difficult Women: She's Not Crazy, She's My Friend

In honor of Women's History Month I'm dedicating various posts to the ten different women who I've called my "best friend" at different times in my life, as well as the dozens of other women who are my close friends as well. Who've been there for me. Who have even saved my life. This one goes out to the half of you my guy friends won't date because they're convinced you'll reign terror on them for imaginary slights when you only attack when provoked by cheaters, liars, abusers and other horrible people you may date:

"I don't think you should do that," I tell her ... or should I say, I tell the 1,001st version of her I've known. She's a friend. She's a very good friend. She's a best friend. I love her and she loves me more. She's funny and loyal and caring and always there. 

She's also the one all my guy friends call "crazy."

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RHOA's Porsha Stewart Is Perfect and I Love Her (But Let Me Explain)

Porsha Stewart reacts to gifts at her fairy tale wedding.Normally, I don't have much in ways of interest for Bravo's Real Housewives of Atlanta. It's a silly, fun show full of cringe-inducing people and a few glamour-pusses flouncing around and twirling. But this season has piqued my interest, but for one reason and one reason alone -- granddaughter of a civil rights activist and wife of former pro-football star Kordell Stewart -- loveable ditz Porsha Stewart.

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Talking Women, Gun Debate on NPR's Tell Me More

Last week, I went on NPR's Tell Me More with Michel Martin for the Beauty Shop segment where we discussed women and the gun control debate. All of us shared personal stories about how the gun issue isn't about gender, but some of the reasons why a woman may (or may not) own a gun has a lot to say about our society.

Check out the audio after the jump.

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Clutch Magazine: Black & White Gender Traps In Rap Fandom

In my latest post for Clutch Magazine Online, I take on a recent article on Vice Magazine's site about men being "initimidated" by girls who like rap. At first I didn't get what the article is referring to, until I realized it was about white men trying to dismiss white women who like rap because white ladies can't possibly know what Chief Keef is talking about, but somehow they do and they need to protect the integrity of 2Chainz from white women and their cooties. Which is a whole other ball of "Wait? What? Why?"

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Clutch Magazine: Ladies Can Have It All (If You Get A House Husband)

For the extremely career-oriented like myself (I've always wanted to be a writer. This is what livin' the dream looks like), career v. family is a battle constantly being waged within ... as I have no immediate family without. I have some adult sisters and verging on elderly parents, but no children or significant other of my own. This has left me lamenting why-oh-why I can't have the kind of marriage my father had -- where you get your spouse and kids and you get to keep your great career too. 

For Clutch Magazine Online, I examine my desire for what my father had ... and the realization that getting either side of the deal in my parents' marriage will be hard to come by. (It's not like I'm turning down a bunch of awesome bread-winning males left and right, I'll take what I'm compatible with, whether that's Joe Ambition or Joe the Cool Dad.)

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Madame Noire: Fifty Shades of WTF

For black lady site Madame Noire I finally broke down my opinions of a horrible book I was (thankfully) paid to read. That book was E.L. James' "Fifty Shades of Grey," better known as "Twilight fan fiction where Bella and Edward finally do it in unmentionable ways." Unfortunately, that concept was not as fun as it sounds. Like, for example, I'd probably love a fan-fiction erotica where my three favorite characters from the film X-Men: First Class (Charles, Mystic and Erik) finally "do it" in a really insane, super powered love triangle, but you just slightly change the names and powers because Marvel be suin', but if I wrote that it would be AWESOME. Which Fifty Shades is not. Oh, God, it is not. But I get why so many women are reading it anyway.

Psst ... the secret is the same reason why I and a whole bunch of other women saw "Magic Mike" last weekend. Womenz likes the "sex."

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The Snob Will Be On NPR's Tell Me More Today

I'm back ... on NPR's "Tell Me More" with Michel Martin this Wednesday. We'll be talking about the recent Supreme Court decision on Arizona's controversial anti-illegal immigration law, women "not" being able to have it all and that horrible Fifty Shades of Grey book that's oh-so-popular. I'll post the audio of the chatfest when it goes live later today online. Check your local NPR listings for Tell Me More.