The Snob Talks Santorum, Rihanna, Chris Brown remix on NPR
Thursday, February 23, 2012 at 1:31PM
The Snob returned to NPR's "Tell Me More" with Michel Martin Wednesday, where I took up residence in the "Beauty Shop" segment. Along with Beauty Shop regulars Michelle Bernard, Viviana Hurtado and Mary Kate Cary we talked about GOP presidential wannabe Rick Santorum's preoccupation with what's going on in your uterus and the recent musical collaboration between pop singer Rihanna and her abusive ex-boyfriend, R&B singer Chris Brown. Short version of what I thought: People are typically indifferent to unsympathetic when a friend takes an ex-boyfriend back. When it's someone famous and everyone can pass judgment, I imagine that teeth-sucking derision comes back tenfold.
If the relationship goes beyond collaborating on remixes, I doubt the ensuing hype will be worth the eventual backlash if Brown hasn't matured and mellowed since the first go 'round. And since he's still getting into fights on Twitter, I'm going to gather his maturity level is still somewhere around the perma-victim, 13-year-old kid, "Why is everyone picking on me! Life isn't fair!" *angrily stomps off into room, slams door* level.
So, as I told many a friend who took back a chronic cheater, a physically or emotionally abusive ex or controlling boyfriend after telling me all the horrible things he did -- don't expect me to still be nice to this dude if I run into him on the street. Don't ask me "why" I don't like him. You already told me countless reasons why I shouldn't. Don't bring him to my party because I don't feel like listening to him call you horrible things after he gets drunk. And he better not say hi to me or ask me why I won't say hi to him. He lost all his saying "hi" privileges after he acted out so bad that your dog hid under the house out of fear of him for three days. Just because you still "love" him even after he screwed half of Pittsburgh, threw you out of your own house and called you a slut for just saying hi to your male cousin doesn't mean I have to.
I'm your friend. Not his. Don't try to re-sell me something just last week you begged me to never buy.
Reader Comments (5)
I'm wit ya on this Rihanna/Chris Brown thing. I really felt for Rihanna the first time CB laid his hands on her. That was some criminal sh*t and he should have gone to jail.
But if she takes him back...I couldn't care less what happens to her. If he knocks her front teeth out and cuts off her baby toes to use as ear plugs that's on HER dumb behind.
"I'm your friend. Not his. Don't try to re-sell me something just last week you begged me to never buy."
That's gospel right there. Preach!
Exactly. People think the backlash is about celebrity. The reality is that she has reduced her access to help because her return increases the "shrug factor."
I think Rhianna lacks judgment and self esteem (self value). Chris Brown and those who abuse, fall under the saying "when the only weapon you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail". I hope this doesn't end badly for either of them...both tallented, young and good looking...the world is their oyster. Unfortunately, too often for some that even is not enough.
"I'm your friend, not his." is such a truthful blunt statement. I've said this to a close friend many times after she continues a relationship with an abusive man. I have even stopped running to her aide every single time. Women like my friend, your friend and Rihanna are caught in a cycle. It's only so much we can do before they snap out of it.
As for Rih and CB, I think they make good music together. If they can keep it professional then I see no problem with their collaborations. But it seems all too clear their relationship is much more.